I mentioned in an earlier post about all that can be counted
, can't be counted on.
(including folks around you ...telling you this or telling you that..
promising you this or promising you that ) If you already KNOW that something can't be
counted on absolutely ...Don't count on it !!! It's as simple as that !
I know that we have all heard or been taught in some form or another ( especially from southern mothers, country mothers and "old school mothers) You don't count your chickens before they are hatched. Which means you can't be putting all of your hopes dreams and plans into something that might or might not materialize. This means people , places and things can and will let you down , or disappoint you .. It's a mistake to spend money depending on what you think you might get. It's a mistake to believe it and count on it when someone’s says, "The check is in the mail" ....literally or figuratively. It's a mistake to base your actions and decisions on what someone "says" that they are going to do. They might...and they might not do it . Whatever you have been TOLD will happen might or might not happen. Much of the time, it doesn't happen, As the old saying goes.......The proof is in the pudding!
You can buy a product that has been advertised to be "all of that". When you get it home..it's NONE of that. We have all had that experience.
You might have booked a vacation resort and seen some glossy brochures ,..but when you step in the door of that room. ..it's nothing even close to what you expected . It happens.
It is the same with people in our lives .People can talk a good "game" but oftentimes, that's all it is ...JUST TALK.
One of the things that really attracted me initially to my dear hubby was the fact that he did what he said he would do...ALWAYS. It absolutely amazed me that over the year and a half that we dated, he was NEVER late for a date or never late for whatever he said he would be there for. If he was not exactly right on time..he was EARLY! We have been married almost 19 years now and that has never changed .
I can count on one hand probably the times that he been a FEW minutes later arriving than the time he told me that he would . It still amazes me. My husband is dependable. I pride myself in being a dependable person. I try to make my yes mean yes and my no mean no. If I say I am going to do something, it is pretty much written in stone. If I know I that I am not going to do something , I won't put it out there . I won't agree to it. My friends are always giving me grief about how easy it is for me to say NO to things !! LOL!!
The point is: You can't depend on everyone . Don't depend on everyone . It would be a big mistake to do so . It is a big mistake to do so.
Just one recent example in my life to illustrate this point to you would be my experience participating in the Mrs. Mississippi Pageant last year. Each contestant is expected to have a certain amount of ad sales and ads. There are also contestant sponsorships for people to donate to the contestants' fees . Of course, I posted on my wall over and over and over and over about ads and got a lot of people telling me how excited they were about me participating in the contest . Some told me that they were going to buy an ad...and EVEN that they were coming to the pageant! Of course being the person that I have been raised to me..by my Mama..(and Daddy) I thought that the /thoughts and intentions were nice . But I certainly wasn't counting on any of that that at all. . After all, most of the people on my Facebook page were /are people that I have/had never met in person. To make a long story short , all of my ads and sponsorships came from family and ONE dear friend. ONLY family attended the pageant. None of those other "promises" ever materialized .I didn't give it a second thought. It is what it is ...and dear , friends, THAT is the WAY IT IS ! It is a lesson that I had learned long ago.
Sadly, there are people my age and older that still have not learned that lesson. I have friends who cry on my shoulder about how this person has let them down or said that they would do something and didn't. I go into my little soapbox lecture..like I am kind of doing here. I am sharing what I share with them , because I think that It a valuable lesson or should I say invaluable lesson for anyone/everyone to learn/know... that all that can be counted (words..promises..people) can't be counted on. PERIOD.
(including folks around you ...telling you this or telling you that..
promising you this or promising you that ) If you already KNOW that something can't be
counted on absolutely ...Don't count on it !!! It's as simple as that !
I know that we have all heard or been taught in some form or another ( especially from southern mothers, country mothers and "old school mothers) You don't count your chickens before they are hatched. Which means you can't be putting all of your hopes dreams and plans into something that might or might not materialize. This means people , places and things can and will let you down , or disappoint you .. It's a mistake to spend money depending on what you think you might get. It's a mistake to believe it and count on it when someone’s says, "The check is in the mail" ....literally or figuratively. It's a mistake to base your actions and decisions on what someone "says" that they are going to do. They might...and they might not do it . Whatever you have been TOLD will happen might or might not happen. Much of the time, it doesn't happen, As the old saying goes.......The proof is in the pudding!
You can buy a product that has been advertised to be "all of that". When you get it home..it's NONE of that. We have all had that experience.
You might have booked a vacation resort and seen some glossy brochures ,..but when you step in the door of that room. ..it's nothing even close to what you expected . It happens.
It is the same with people in our lives .People can talk a good "game" but oftentimes, that's all it is ...JUST TALK.
One of the things that really attracted me initially to my dear hubby was the fact that he did what he said he would do...ALWAYS. It absolutely amazed me that over the year and a half that we dated, he was NEVER late for a date or never late for whatever he said he would be there for. If he was not exactly right on time..he was EARLY! We have been married almost 19 years now and that has never changed .
I can count on one hand probably the times that he been a FEW minutes later arriving than the time he told me that he would . It still amazes me. My husband is dependable. I pride myself in being a dependable person. I try to make my yes mean yes and my no mean no. If I say I am going to do something, it is pretty much written in stone. If I know I that I am not going to do something , I won't put it out there . I won't agree to it. My friends are always giving me grief about how easy it is for me to say NO to things !! LOL!!
The point is: You can't depend on everyone . Don't depend on everyone . It would be a big mistake to do so . It is a big mistake to do so.
Just one recent example in my life to illustrate this point to you would be my experience participating in the Mrs. Mississippi Pageant last year. Each contestant is expected to have a certain amount of ad sales and ads. There are also contestant sponsorships for people to donate to the contestants' fees . Of course, I posted on my wall over and over and over and over about ads and got a lot of people telling me how excited they were about me participating in the contest . Some told me that they were going to buy an ad...and EVEN that they were coming to the pageant! Of course being the person that I have been raised to me..by my Mama..(and Daddy) I thought that the /thoughts and intentions were nice . But I certainly wasn't counting on any of that that at all. . After all, most of the people on my Facebook page were /are people that I have/had never met in person. To make a long story short , all of my ads and sponsorships came from family and ONE dear friend. ONLY family attended the pageant. None of those other "promises" ever materialized .I didn't give it a second thought. It is what it is ...and dear , friends, THAT is the WAY IT IS ! It is a lesson that I had learned long ago.
Sadly, there are people my age and older that still have not learned that lesson. I have friends who cry on my shoulder about how this person has let them down or said that they would do something and didn't. I go into my little soapbox lecture..like I am kind of doing here. I am sharing what I share with them , because I think that It a valuable lesson or should I say invaluable lesson for anyone/everyone to learn/know... that all that can be counted (words..promises..people) can't be counted on. PERIOD.
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